What is immovable when what we want most is so, so very movable? When my women friends face reproductive losses in their lives, many live in the limbo of not knowing if or when a reproductive success will last or end in failure. Subsequent failures make it nearly impossible to hang onto hope. Yet, just as it helps to be able to process those losses with others who care, it also helps to live in light of the things that are immovable, especially the immovable love of Jesus Christ.

I think of the child who loses a precious stuffed animal while at a chaotic airport. He or she is still comforted to know that his or her parents are still in place, immovable in their love and care despite such disappointment. Immovable care. I think of the days upon days of a raging rain storm. It is still consoling to know that the sun is still in place showing itself somewhere and will one day show itself to us again. Immovable sun. I think of the women who struggle with infertility, miscarriage, or infant loss. Psalm 18:35-36 says, “You [God] have given me the shield of Your salvation, and Your right hand supported me, and Your gentleness made me great. You gave me a wide place for my steps under me, and my feet did not slip.” Immovable caring God.

The holiday season deals double difficulty in the face of reproductive loss. When commerce pushes us to embrace “wonder” and celebrate the “happy,” many will find no “wonder” and no “happy.” But consider, there is immovable truth. Scripture encourages us to “feel our feelings,” but to do it before the Lord in prayer, safely but not necessarily quietly. Psalm 55:1-2 repeats a pattern of prayer given to us in many of the Psalms, “Give ear to my prayer, O God, and hide not Yourself from my plea for mercy! Attend to me, answer me; I am restless in my complaint and I moan.” Not quietly.

While it is not wise to let the words “I feel” become your basis for decision-making or counsel, let them instead become your signal to approach the God who sees you, hears you, and cares for you. Let God help you to examine your losses in the light of His Word. Yes. Be restless. Complain. Mourn. Do so before a God Who listens and cares through Christ Jesus. He is immovable in His love and care. Knowing this helps.

The desire for motherhood is God-given and perhaps one of the most difficult grapplings when unachievable over and over. But, there is immovable truth that provides comfort. Romans 8:38-39 says, “For I am sure that neither death nor life, nor angels nor rulers, nor things present nor things to come, nor powers, nor height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord.”

Also, In God’s family, being immovable in your faith implies a deep-rooted steadfastness to God’s Truth that can withstand doubts, temptations, pressures, and losses. And even repeated losses. Psalm 55:22 says, “Cast your burden on the Lord, and He will sustain you; He will never permit the righteous to be moved.” Live in the light of the things that are immovable. God’s care is first. Ask Him to deepen your faith so it can be more immovable through all the storms of the movability of motherhood dreams.